There is no better time than now to do a temper check…Say What??
No, I am not going to take your temperature or ask you to take it. I am however going to ask that you really pay attention to your temperament.
The way you handle change, sounds, smells and so much more can all be related to your temperament.
The same goes for your child.
A child’s temperament can be the same as yours or completely different.
Temperament is described by many people as the way we respond to things in our world.
There are 3 basic types of temperament that are commonly discussed. The types of temperament are as follows: easy-going, slow to warm, and active (sometimes labeled as difficult but let’s keep the label type positive).
With our youngest, he is very active at home. At school, he is slow-to-warm or easy-going. With his active at-home personality comes a great deal of reaction and emotion. We often give him lots of advance warning of things to come and when changes are happening it is important to have some of his creature comforts readily available.
With children that are slow-to-warm back to school or daycare can be a very tough transition. One proactive thing to do is to make sure you allow for a great deal of time during drop-off. If possible taking a few minutes to play in the playground after school will help as well.
Easy-going little ones often do not need a great deal of preparation and they just go with the flow easily that we may forget to do something that we have promised which will backfire after time.
If you and your little share the same type of temperament, you will understand what your child is going through and you may be experiencing the same things yourself.
If you and your child share a bit of a different temperament in certain situations you may find it hard to understand why your child is acting in the manner they are. This is the time to try to put yourself in your child’s shoes. Really think about what they could be experiencing. This allows you to respond in a way that can help your child and it will take the pressure off you to fix it. Sometimes we just need to sit with a person until they are able to cope.
This is a subject I am very passionate about helping parents understand! I strongly believe that once we understand what is actually occurring for our child we can be way more proactive in reducing the number of meltdowns or difficult behavior our children experience.
So is your child easy-going, slow to warm, or reactive??
If you require further support, feel free to book a free 15-minute consultation with me to discuss how I can help.
All the best,