With the recent events in Ukraine, I believe it is important to write this post.
Talking about hard subjects is difficult on a good day; however, when you are seeing reports that are happening in current times it is important that you talk to your child.
It is a natural reflex to not want to talk about it or to “hide it” from your child. The reality is that a child over the age of 5 will be getting information from peers, by listening to other conversations, in school, on the playground, etc…
I do agree that limiting your child’s exposure to the news and other forms of media on hard topics is a good idea. You cannot keep them completely unaware. The child’s parent/guardian is the best person to share hard subjects like war, death, shootings, and more,
So how do you do it??…
Step One: Find out what your child already knows.
You can find out what your child already knows by asking them. Ask direct questions or make direct statements.
- Have you heard about the war in Ukraine?
- Do you have any questions?
- Tell me what you have heard.
Step Two: Find out how your child feels about the subject.
Ask your child what they think of the subject or how the subject makes them feel. Then take the time to listen to their thoughts. Try not to impose your thoughts initially. As the conversation develops it will be important that you let your child know your thoughts and feelings on the subject.
- What are your thoughts on the war in Ukraine?
- How do you feel about the war?
Step 3: Fill in the blanks together.
This is when you do research with your child about the subject. There are many child-friendly news sites and channels on the internet. Before you start going through the sites and sources for news please look at it alone first and then share it if you deem it appropriate.
Some sites to get child-friendly news are as follows:
The below video is a video I did and based this post on the information I shared in this video.
If you require further support feel free to book a free 15-minute call or book a mini consult to dive deeper into how to talk to your child about difficult topics.
All the best!
Brenda
